Why didn’t you use me as your Realtor?

I was recently approached by a family member who wanted to apologize for not using me as their Realtor when they sold their house.  I get it.  I really do.  Do you know how many real estate agents I knew before I got into the business, tons. They are everywhere and I know that.  Let me tell you a secret, working with close friends and family is extremely stressful.  I feel more pressure to sell or find a home for my brother or best friend. It’s true.

In my short 2 years as a licensed Realtor I have found a solution, referrals.  Before I went to real estate school, and yes I went to ReeceNichols Real Estate School, I didn’t even know that referrals existed in this industry.  For example:

My best friends are getting a divorce and they need to sell their family home.  Obviously I don’t want to get involved in this transaction for so many different reasons.  There is so much stress, emotions, financial issues, and personal information involved in a normal real estate transaction but would be at an all time high while doing it during a divorce.  In this case I would REFER my friends to a amazing agent that can get the job done for them.  And the bonus is, I get a referral fee from that agent without being involved in the transaction.  Everyone wins.

In my small community in Piper, there are 5,657 real estate agents.  Some good, some not so good, some full time, and some part time.  What I am saying is that there is a lot of competition but we still are all working together for our clients.  The point of this post was to let you know that yes, sometimes it hurts that a friend or member of my family goes with another agent but I understand.  If I can’t help you, at least let me find a great agent that will be a great fit.

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Happy Holidays

It’s that time of year again, holiday parties, holiday events for children, booze, food, and presents!  I do enjoy the holidays because we get to see so much of our families and my girls love any chance they get to see all their cousins.  Well, for me, their is always delicious food and drink around as well.  Let’s just say that if you are a master at making peanut butter balls, I would love you forever.

So this year I started my new career in real estate and it has gone pretty well I think.  I have learned A LOT and realized that there is much more stress than I was expecting.  One thing I have learned that carries over to both my personal life and my career, surround yourself with like-minded people.  People that make you better as a person.  People that have similar goals.  People that have similar morals. People that will make me better.  Once I realized that I was letting the same people in my life upset me or make me feel bad about myself, I walked away.  It took me years to finally realize that nothing was going to change on its own, I had to do the changing.  Now, I’m surrounding myself with some awesome people and there is almost zero drama.  I am almost 37 years old and there is no room for drama in my life (unless it’s from my 6 or 8 year old).

I truly believe that it should be the same in your professional life.  The reason I choose my current brokerage is because I wanted to work with some of the best people in real estate.  I wanted to pick the brains of all these multi-million dollar producers who had been in the business for over ten years.  My motto was, if I’m going to be the best, I have to work with the best.  I think a lot of real estate agents get a bad reputation for being snotty, standoffish, and selfish.  Believe me, there are plenty of those still in the business but for the most part, the successful agents are there to help.  I have learned a lot from my fellow associates at RE/MAX and I don’t think I would have been as successful my first year if I had gone somewhere else.

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In the past couple months I have jumped on the Rachel Hollis train and I’m loving it!  If you haven’t read Girl, Wash Your Face then you are missing out.  She also has a podcast that is fun and inspiring to listen to.  I’ve been staying positive, setting goals for myself, and holding myself accountable more.  I’m still working on the whole “working out everyday” thing but I’ll get there (hopefully)!  What I’m trying to say is that, she has inspired me to be better and sometimes that is all we need.  I have big plans for myself in 2019, and I can’t wait to start crushing it.  Stay tuned…

Can You Afford a House?

Mortgages.  Depending on the price of your home and/or the amount of your down payment, there may be several options that fit your needs.  They include VA (for military veterans only) which allows 100% financing for the purchase, FHA (Federal Housing Administration) which allows a purchase with as little as 3% down and Conventional, generally the best option when putting down 20%. Did you know about the USDA Home Loan?  USDA loans are one of the only home loans available today with no down payment required.  Homebuyers may finance a home for 100% of the purchase price.  No Funds For Closing, 100% financing to buyers and closing costs can be paid by the seller or rolled into the loan, provided the home appraises for more than the purchase price.  It’s not Just Farmland, properties are often near desirable metropolitan areas like Basehor, Kansas.

I am super lucky to work with one of the best lenders in Kansas City.  Although, I know there are many excellent mortgage lenders in the area, I personally prefer someone that interact with on a personal and professional level.  Erik Lorfing at Mortgage Lenders of America has down all of my personal home loans and he is the one I refer all my friends and family as well.  He is has been in the mortgage business for years and knows what he is talking about.  One of the reasons my clients love him is that he can explain the mortgage process to you in way you understand it.  You know those silly mortgage commercials that use all that fancy wording and for some homebuyers, it just confuses them more.  When you are honest and genuine I think you will relate better, in my opinion.

When you work with an Exclusive Buyer Agent with RE/MAX(that would be me) in finding your home, they unequivocally represent only you and your best interests.  I will assist you in the mortgage process and make sure you understand every little detail.   You, as a Buyer, get the benefit of The Fred Perry Team’s experience in negotiating countless contracts over the past 40+ years.

You not only get the benefit of a my team’s experience, but it doesn’t even cost you anything.  As before, when all agents represented the Seller and the Seller paid their commission, the Seller still pays!  In most real estate transactions, there are two agents involved: one represents the Seller and we represent you.  The agents spilt the commission…that’s how we get paid.

Erik Lorfing

Mortgage Lenders of America

10975 El Monte

Overland Park, KS 66211

elorfing@mloanusa.com

Office: (913) 491-4299

New Challenge

In January I told myself that I was going to try to write an entry every week, and now it is the end of May and I haven’t finished one!  New goal, try to write one every month.  I. can. do. this.

I also have been attempting to read a book, The Happiness Project and am a whole 25 pages into it.  It’s not like I don’t know how to read because I can, I swear.  I have read those same 25 pages over and over again just to familiarize myself with the book again. Exhausting. I am hoping that one day I will be able to relax and do those little things like read a book or go to the restroom without a toddler following me around asking me very important questions.  Don’t get me wrong, I love my children but this momma is on a journey to balance work, family, and me time. I’ll get there and you will most likely hear about it along the way.

My little one just started her little army crawl last night so I officially have two little girls on the move.  Reese is a complete momma’s girl and has been attached to my hip for the past 10 months so I am loving her desire for independence.  I am just praying that she will enjoy playing without me holding her! At this point I can’t understand why I don’t have super toned arms after carrying around a 20 pounder and a thirty pounder, they should be ripped.

Super Mom, kinda but not really

I don’t think I was fully prepared to be a wife, mother of 2 girls under the age of 2, and a full-time employee.  How do people do this!  After being off work for 12 weeks, I finally went back to work on Monday and realized what I had been missing was not worth missing.  The first day back it seems that I scared off the replacement we hired to help while I was gone.  She literally went to lunch and never came back, leaving me with a full afternoon of patients, one doctor, and new office software I had never touched.  Stupid girl.  Why bother even coming in on a Monday morning if you plan to go to lunch and not come back?  The day went fine though, mostly because I’m freaking awesome.  I would like to find the little twit and tell her thanks for setting me back on taking a new position.  Now I have to find and train the next person which is going to take forever.

Everyday is battle for me lately.  Basically a battle not to open a bottle of two buck chuck when I walk in the door from work.  I know I can’t be the only one that feels that way.  My oldest girl is so great with the new baby which actually surprised the hell out of me.  She basically just tickles her fingers and feet, kisses her hand, and tells me to put her down. She has her little meltdowns though when I’m holding Reese or feeding Reese.  Exhausting some nights. All I’m thinking about while I type this is a bottle of wine.

Hopefully all this exhaustion will pass.  I pray that it will at least.  Between the dishes, laundry, and the attempts at sleep I feel like a failure some nights.  Wendy’s counts as dinner, right?  I even found myself flipping off my 22 month old as she ran away from me the other day.  Okay, I know what your thinking but her back was turned and that was me getting my frustration out.  I realize that I’m not winning Mother of the Year 2012 but maybe next year.